The following is from a personal blog of mine (if you want to read it, email me and I'll add you to the list). I felt that this is something everyone should read, as I found it a little enlightening. Again, this is just a small excerpt. Enjoy.
"There's a handful of relationships that inspire me. Friends and family. One thing I've noticed for all of the healthy relationships is this: Individualism. Each person is an individual and is able to keep their independence while still being able to share life with their loved one. It's incredible. Neither one becomes upset, angry, frustrated, or annoyed with their loved one over small issues, and has no problem showing some level of affection for each other. Nothing crazy of course, no make-out sessions or nothing, but a few couples have expressed some level of passion for each other in just their simple kissing.
There's also a strong level of honesty. Almost raw in it's entirety. It's truly impressive. Each person excepts the other in every way, faults, and hobbies. Neither person tries to change the other, or stop them from doing what they like. Granted I am on the outside looking in, but yet, over the years of knowing these people, or just the months in some cases, it's been the same consistency.
It is truly amazing. Very inspiring as a whole. The honesty and passion seem to be the most distinct while watching these people interact with each other. They don't attach at the hip, they don't become needy or selfish. There's a very genuine and raw love for each other. A compassion of unequaled comparisons. One couple will be completely honest about everything, which at first, was a bit shocking, but eventually was endearing. One couple are more individuals than the others. But yet, despite not always being at the same place together, when they are, you see two lovers who are total best friends, and don't require constant companionship everywhere they go; they don't need to be at every place together.
I've seen couples that inspire each other in total silence, just being themselves and pushing their abilities to their fullest because their loved one is pushing themselves, and in turn they are inspired and motivated to do the same.
I've seen couples love each other for the quirkiness of their separate personalities.
I've seen/heard couples get frustrated in situations at a party, or some event, but the understanding from both people are so great, that any kind of argument or frustration hardly lasts even a day, if not an hour!
So, what do I want? What do I deserve? Well, I think my friends and family would say I deserve the best. So, I'll agree with them. I deserve the best. But what do I want?
I want what they all have of course. I want a best-friend I can be honest with, no sugar coating, no judging. I want to be able to tell them ANYTHING, and EVERYTHING at the same time. Actually, I think it would be cool if I didn't have to, they just got it without saying anything. I have faults, I make mistakes, I want someone to accept me for those too. I want honesty and passion. I'm not saying that I have to be attacked with kisses and such all the time (not that there is anything wrong with that) but I want a kiss that expresses, or at least attempts to express the depth of their love for me every time. A simple kiss, a simple hug. Even a look. If you've ever been in a relationship, you know the look I'm talking about. I've seen it on just about every couple I've referred to. It's a look that people give when they love someone. Actually... I've seen it more from the females to the guys, when the guys do something kinda... weird, or quirky. Again... it makes me smile.
I think I finally get how a healthy relationship should be. Nothing hidden, everything open. You can't have a true real best-friend for life if you aren't willing to explain EVERYTHING, and tell them anything. There shouldn't be any fears of "will they not like me? will they be angry?" ect ect. Not one relationship had any fear or insecurities.
Some might argue that I wouldn't see any of the turmoil when I'm hanging out with these people. But that's just the thing. There are so many awesome couples in my life, and some that I've known my whole life, and others I've gotten to know over a few months, that the variety is huge. I WOULD see it. I personally love to people watch; analyze non-verbal behavior and really understand human development. It's become quite a second nature to me to see when someone is upset, frustrated or angry. I can just tell when someone is hiding it, or acting. And sure, some of the couples have shown that frustration completely masked with a smile, because the atmosphere didn't ask for that kind of frustrated behavior to be shown.
Every couple goes through some kinda of turmoil or trial at least once.
But not one of these relationships I've looked at has ever gotten to a point of extreme anger or frustration. Not once has someone felt compelled to keep something from the other out of fear or anger. It's amazing. The level of happiness that exudes from these people is incredible."
And that's it. I'd love to know everyone's thoughts and ideas on this if you got them. (I suppose I'll post this on my facebook too)
"There's a handful of relationships that inspire me. Friends and family. One thing I've noticed for all of the healthy relationships is this: Individualism. Each person is an individual and is able to keep their independence while still being able to share life with their loved one. It's incredible. Neither one becomes upset, angry, frustrated, or annoyed with their loved one over small issues, and has no problem showing some level of affection for each other. Nothing crazy of course, no make-out sessions or nothing, but a few couples have expressed some level of passion for each other in just their simple kissing.
There's also a strong level of honesty. Almost raw in it's entirety. It's truly impressive. Each person excepts the other in every way, faults, and hobbies. Neither person tries to change the other, or stop them from doing what they like. Granted I am on the outside looking in, but yet, over the years of knowing these people, or just the months in some cases, it's been the same consistency.
It is truly amazing. Very inspiring as a whole. The honesty and passion seem to be the most distinct while watching these people interact with each other. They don't attach at the hip, they don't become needy or selfish. There's a very genuine and raw love for each other. A compassion of unequaled comparisons. One couple will be completely honest about everything, which at first, was a bit shocking, but eventually was endearing. One couple are more individuals than the others. But yet, despite not always being at the same place together, when they are, you see two lovers who are total best friends, and don't require constant companionship everywhere they go; they don't need to be at every place together.
I've seen couples that inspire each other in total silence, just being themselves and pushing their abilities to their fullest because their loved one is pushing themselves, and in turn they are inspired and motivated to do the same.
I've seen couples love each other for the quirkiness of their separate personalities.
I've seen/heard couples get frustrated in situations at a party, or some event, but the understanding from both people are so great, that any kind of argument or frustration hardly lasts even a day, if not an hour!
So, what do I want? What do I deserve? Well, I think my friends and family would say I deserve the best. So, I'll agree with them. I deserve the best. But what do I want?
I want what they all have of course. I want a best-friend I can be honest with, no sugar coating, no judging. I want to be able to tell them ANYTHING, and EVERYTHING at the same time. Actually, I think it would be cool if I didn't have to, they just got it without saying anything. I have faults, I make mistakes, I want someone to accept me for those too. I want honesty and passion. I'm not saying that I have to be attacked with kisses and such all the time (not that there is anything wrong with that) but I want a kiss that expresses, or at least attempts to express the depth of their love for me every time. A simple kiss, a simple hug. Even a look. If you've ever been in a relationship, you know the look I'm talking about. I've seen it on just about every couple I've referred to. It's a look that people give when they love someone. Actually... I've seen it more from the females to the guys, when the guys do something kinda... weird, or quirky. Again... it makes me smile.
I think I finally get how a healthy relationship should be. Nothing hidden, everything open. You can't have a true real best-friend for life if you aren't willing to explain EVERYTHING, and tell them anything. There shouldn't be any fears of "will they not like me? will they be angry?" ect ect. Not one relationship had any fear or insecurities.
Some might argue that I wouldn't see any of the turmoil when I'm hanging out with these people. But that's just the thing. There are so many awesome couples in my life, and some that I've known my whole life, and others I've gotten to know over a few months, that the variety is huge. I WOULD see it. I personally love to people watch; analyze non-verbal behavior and really understand human development. It's become quite a second nature to me to see when someone is upset, frustrated or angry. I can just tell when someone is hiding it, or acting. And sure, some of the couples have shown that frustration completely masked with a smile, because the atmosphere didn't ask for that kind of frustrated behavior to be shown.
Every couple goes through some kinda of turmoil or trial at least once.
But not one of these relationships I've looked at has ever gotten to a point of extreme anger or frustration. Not once has someone felt compelled to keep something from the other out of fear or anger. It's amazing. The level of happiness that exudes from these people is incredible."
And that's it. I'd love to know everyone's thoughts and ideas on this if you got them. (I suppose I'll post this on my facebook too)
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