The following is an excerpt from one of my many blogs. I felt it was something I should share with everyone, a little bit more insight into me... enjoy.
So, over the course of the last several months, I've been making mental lists, as well as probably a few written ones, as to what I need, want and require from a relationship. Now let me clarify something, for starters I'm going to refer to this whole subject in general terms, or at least try to, without making references to any one individual. Furthermore, I've already known what the difference is between need and want, and don't feel I need to go into too many specifics about either one, and only want to touch on a couple of the topics under that subject of need and want. On with the show...
I want someone who is secure in themselves. Better yet, I require it. I, in no way, want to sound conceited at all, and of course still realize that I'm growing and learning, and will never stop. But, I will say that if I'm going to be strong for myself, and secure in who I am in my beliefs and self-aware of my problems and issues, then I need someone who is in that place as well; someone who knows what their issues are, what their problems are, where they need to be watchful of with their habits. I'm not about to get into a relationship with someone who can't communicate properly with me about a problem they have about a habit or a choice I made. It's as simple as being a mature, reasonable adult who can recognize their own personal issues, as well as be understanding to their loved one in regards to their personal issues. I have plenty of healthy awesome couples to pull from as examples if this idea baffles you. But it's true. It's possible. I've always known it was possible, but I also feel that at the very least ONE person has to be able to be strong enough to identify the concept and utilize it in a healthy way.
Secondly, I require passion. Passion is a wild word. It's different to so many people. And to be perfectly blunt, most people would relate the word passion in regards to a relationship, to mean sex, or "sexy time". But that's not the case here. When I use passion it simply means being able to express a love or desire for something or someone in a completely unhindered and unrestricted fashion. That's what I'm talking about. To me, passion can be expressed in numerous ways. For instance, one example could be if the man got up early and got his wife gas for her car before she was awake, making sure she didn't have to do it later. That's a small form of passion, to me at least, that shows his love for her. Doing things without being told. And something that also falls under that, that speaks to me on loud levels, is simple hugs and kisses. Just walking over and giving me a hug, randomly, for no reason, but just cause she loved/missed/wanted me. A simple hug.
I'm a physical person. I express my love in various romantic gestures (if given the chance) but being physical is one that I respond to best. And honestly, it's not sex. It's not of the sexual nature. It's really just simple kissing and hugging. Those two things are so under-rated it's ridiculous! Is it just me, or did anyone else ever enjoy just making out with your love on the couch. Okay okay... I'll admit it, I'm a hopeless romantic. I'm cheesy, sappy, and sometimes totally lame. So what? You like it, don't lie. It's endearing, no? So I have this soft sweet side, don't tell anybody.
I don't feel wrong in these two ideals. I think it's important to have both in order to have a healthy relationship. Sure, honesty, respect, communication, ect ect are important no doubt. But to be in a relationship without feeling the least bit amount of passion, unrestricted, straight up, raw, passion... well that's just horrible. And what about being secure in oneself? Couldn't it be impossible to have a healthy relationship if both people had issues and refused to deal with them from the onset, or at least strengthen each other to help deal with it? I believe that both are so important that, I require that as well, as I'm feeling way healthier and strong in all my current walks of life.
There's more to it of course, but this is the biggest general area part of the blog. Some of you I've already talked to about it, others I have not. I'd love to hear more insights as to what you all think.
Thanks.
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